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“She Can’t Love You Like I Can” by Dr. Jené Walker

Genesis 30:1-8 (NIV) 1 “When Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children, she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, “Give me children, or I’ll die!” 2 Jacob became angry with her and said, “Am I in the place of God, who has kept you from having children?” 3 Then she said, “Here is Bilhah, my servant. Sleep with her so that she can bear children for me and I too can build a family through her.” 4 So she gave him her servant Bilhah as a wife. Jacob slept with her, 5 and she became pregnant and bore him a son. 6 Then Rachel said, “God has vindicated me; he has listened to my plea and given me a son.” Because of this she named him Dan. 7 Rachel’s servant Bilhah conceived again and bore Jacob a second son. 8 Then Rachel said, “I have had a great struggle with my sister, and I have won.”

SHE BECAME JEALOUS OF HER SISTER (verse 1)!
When we look at our sister’s situation sometimes, that old ugly, evil, vicious spirit of jealousy will rise up out of seemingly nowhere. But the origin of it is our flesh and we have to cut it off at the root because jealousy can fester in something even uglier. But even deeper than ourselves, the enemy has established a world system (Jesus called Satan the prince of this world because this is his domain). In the system, the media, movies, and public figures do worldly things to push the enemy’s agenda – to include pitting us against each other. How? Depicting certain sizes and complexions. Creating shows in which cheating with someone’s husband is not just ok but promoted. We allow all these things to go in our spirit and it causes dissension and even strife between us. The bottom line is that we have to know our worth. We have to realize that we are worth far more than rubies. Period.

These are some lessons to consider and confessions to speak over our lives to bind the spirit of jealousy, competition, covetousness, and vanity in the name of Yeshua!

LESSON ONE: COVET NOT YOUR SISTER’S BLESSINGS
1. I am in the world but I am not of the world; I renounce the spirit of jealousy and quarreling and conflict against my sisters in the name of Yeshua (1 Corinthians 3:3).
2. I have Holy Ghost power on the inside of me to cast down thoughts about other women and cast out spirits of jealousy and envy and covetousness. I will cast my cares, my flesh, my desires, and insecurities on Yeshua.
3. I know that a man can’t give me what only God Himself can give. Only God can fill my void. Only Jehovah can make me whole. Only Jehovah can satisfy my soul, my thirst, and my desires. I depend on Jehovah.
4. I will not go into my marriage thinking my husband can fix what’s broken in me. I will not try to make my husband give me things to compete with another woman. I receive my healing from Yeshua (Jesus) now.

LESSON TWO: DO NOT TAKE MATTERS INTO YOUR OWN HANDS.
5. I will test my spirit by the Spirit of God and check the motives of my own heart. Why do I want the things I’m vying for and dying to have? My heart is fixed in Jesus’s name.
6. I will not get involved in another counterfeit relationship; I will not rush God in connecting me with my husband; I will not take matters into my own hands trying to manipulate a man to marry me.
7. I will not allow my body to be used as a punching bag for sex or for fists; I am worth far more than rubies.

LESSON THREE: STOP COMPETING WITH YOUR SISTER.
8. I rebuke the competitive spirit that causes me to try to make something happen for myself that isn’t God’s plan for me at this time. I will wait on His set and appointed (Kairos) time.
9. I rebuke the competitive spirit that makes me say ugly things about my sister; makes me judge my sister; and makes me criticize my sister.
10. I rebuke the competitive spirit that makes me try to take my sister’s man or sleep with her husband.

Do you know your worth? You and your sisters are worth far more than rubies. You are not her competition and she isn’t yours. We are all so worthy to our Lord and Savior Yeshua! Know your worth! Order your tee now at www.drjarmory.com!

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“I Am Black and Beautiful” by Dr. Jené Walker

 

“She” is probably holding her head down in shame or embarrassment or insecurity because of her complexion. She says she is “lovely” but… Have you ever done that? Given yourself a compliment “but” took it right back?

Song of Solomon 1:5-6a
She
5 I am black, but comely, O ye daughters of Jerusalem, as the tents of Kedar, as the curtains of Solomon.
6 Look not upon me, because I am black, because the sun hath looked upon me:

Why do we do this? Do you struggle with accepting compliments or thanking Jehovah for the gifts you have without bringing up a flaw you have at the same time? If you can relate, would you agree that there is something on the inside that we need to get healed? We’ve been with ourselves for years so we know who we are and how we look. We should be delivered from our flaws even though they may be with us forever. The flaws are what they are and they make us who we are. But the question is, are the things about us truly “flaws” or are they unique traits that God designed to set us apart or keep us grounded? Society has influenced our opinions of ourselves so we need to get back to measuring ourselves by the true standard Yeshua and not the world’s standards.

Song of Solomon 1:15
He
15 Behold, you are beautiful, my love;
behold, you are beautiful;
your eyes are doves.

In verse 15, “he” begins to affirm his love with his words. “Behold,” he says. “Look at yourself my love,” he says. “You are beautiful. You are beautiful.” Your “husband” will affirm you over and over again. However, your insecurities about yourself will be dispelled and healed during your waiting season in the name of Yeshua. The goal during our wait is for us to allow Jehovah to reaffirm how beautiful we are. We now have an opportunity for Jehovah to work on us from now until completion. We are being sanctified daily if we’re truly walking with Yeshua. We will be whole when our husbands find us. We won’t “need” his affirmation but it will be nice when our husbands give it to us just because. Rest assuredly, the man totally surrendered to God will love you and cherish you and tell you that you are beautiful – repeatedly if need be.

“Am I Ready to Be a Wife?” by Dr. Jené Walker

There have been times when that “smile” was really a “smirk” because I knew I was right about something and he was wrong. I thank Jehovah for daily sanctification. I thank Jehovah for daily, moment-by-moment transformation. I thank Jehovah for His grace. This isn’t an “us against him” kind of thing. This is a “you and me against the world’s system” kind of thing. PRIDE is what has to be demolished in order for us to be ok with being right – privately. It doesn’t even matter to us if our husband ever knows he was wrong in the situation. Jehovah will complete the work He starts in our husbands just like He will in us. We have to really allow Holy Spirit to humble us and help us not to take offense in situations like this. Our flesh will fight against this every step of the way. “I know I’m right. I’m smart. I run my own company. I make decisions at work. I’m smarter than he is. I make more money than he does.” Pride, pride, pride flee in the name of Yeshua. “Ok honey. I’m in agreement with you because where two or more are unified in His name, Jehovah is in the midst.” Can we humble ourselves to that extent? Of course we can; we have the power of Holy Spirit indwelling us. Are you ready to be a wife? Jené Elaine Walker