There is no competition or vying for position in the kingdom. Each queen has her own throne. Each queen has her own metron. Each queen has territory to conquer. I can share my ideas with you and you with me and we can copy each other if Holy Spirit so leads. And guess what? Both of us will still reign in her own right. There is a need for a plethora of ministries, businesses, schools and more. Each of us has a sphere of influence. Your people may not be my people. There are millions of unchurched people who need what we have. The enemy already tears us down without us doing it to each other. It’s his mission to wreak havoc in our lives specifically. There will always be enmity between queens and Satan. Stay in position. And when you get in position. Bring another queen up and another and another. And if she gets there before you do, support her until your due season.
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“His Bed is Not Your Altar” by Dr. Jené Walker
Daughter of Zion, O beautiful precious daughter, get up. His bed is not your altar. Stop allowing the bed of a broken man to be your place of worship. We can’t continue to give ourselves to a man who is not our husband and who is too broken to even consider marrying us. Every time we engage in sexual activity with a man who is not our husband, we offer up worship to the kingdom of darkness. Sex is a form of worship. If sex isn’t with your God ordained spouse, the worship is to Satan and the kingdom of darkness. Every time we engage in sexual immorality with a man who is not our husbands, we are bowing down at the altar of Satan. Why is it, do we think, that there is so much sexual immorality in this world as if Jehovah Himself didn’t declare that it is sin? Why is it pervasive in and throughout every cultural mountain? Why is it wreaking so much havoc including disease and destruction? Why? Satan is using our bodies as his playground and we are allowing it. Almost every form of idolatry in the Old Testament involved pagan sexual worship to Satan’s idols. The Israelites would participate in sexual immorality in order to gain from idols the favor, fertility, prosperity, and whatever else they lusted for. Those idolatrous spirits are still in existence in the heavenly realm. How long will we allow our bodies to be the temples for those spirits? When we have sex with a man who is not our husband, we give Satan access, an entry way into our lives. Stop now.
How do I stop? How can I possibly refrain from sex? How can I refuse him when I love him? How can I stop worshiping in his bed and worship Jehovah my creator instead? Through developing your relationship with Yeshua. The closer you get to the Vine, the more you begin to resemble Him. The closer you get to the Vine, the more you begin to hear Holy Spirit when He says, “Don’t answer the phone.” “Don’t go.” “Don’t kiss him.” “Don’t put yourself in a tempting situation.” “Don’t check his page.” The closer you get to the Vine, the more you want to fall on your face at His altar instead of the bed of his altar. You begin to desire to consecrate yourself. You begin to be delivered and healed from your own afflictions. You begin to be made whole. And when you get to that sweet spot, you will know that God has a whole and healed man for you who will not ask you to worship him. He will instead ask you to marry him and Yeshua, the Vine will give you whatever you ask according to His will. Meanwhile, precious queen, get up. His bed is not your altar. Do not let the bed of a broken man become your place of worship. You’re worthy of so much more. You’re worth far more than rubies. Know your worth.
John 15:5-7 5 I am the Vine; you are the branches. Whoever lives in Me and I in him bears much (abundant) fruit. However, apart from Me [cut off from vital union with Me] you can do nothing. 6 If a person does not dwell in Me, he is thrown out like a [broken-off] branch, and withers; such branches are gathered up and thrown into the fire, and they are burned. 7 If you live in Me [abide vitally united to Me] and My words remain in you and continue to live in your hearts, ask whatever you will, and it shall be done for you.
“His Sex Drive is Your Gift” by Dr. Jené Walker
“Your husband’s sex drive is God’s gift to you.” Wives, sex is such a powerful tool and an even more powerful weapon. Jehovah never intended for us to use sex as a kingdom or spiritual weapon. The devil came in and corrupted its meaning and its use. Think about how the enemy uses sex in our marriages or how he uses us to use sex against our husbands. I know it must be extremely difficult to surrender your body and emotions to a man who has been insensitive, who refuses to take out the trash or help with the children, or who isn’t affectionate. But instead of rebelling; instead of withholding; and instead of withdrawing, you must learn how to engage in spiritual warfare. What are the confessions that you speak over him daily so that Jehovah can transform his life? How do you refuel and surrender to Jehovah so that He can fix what’s wrong in YOU? When do you go to the altar to pray for Jehovah to help you surrender to your husband sexually? When was the last time you fasted for your husband and marriage and sex life?
The devil will use us wives to withhold sex because he knows what a powerful tool it is in kingdom marriages. He will also use spirits of lust, adultery, masturbation, pornography and all other forms of sexual immorality to infiltrate our marriages with irreparable damage – if we let him. In kingdom, God ordained marriages and in God ordained sexual activities with your spouse, the sexual connection not only binds you to your husband and secures your oneness with him; not only does it feel amazing, but it is also a form of worship to Jehovah.
Think about all this power you have within you wives as you’ve been studying the Word of God with me; you’ve been praying; you’re about to do a 30-day fast. And do you think that when you connect with your husband sexually (which is also a connection spiritually) that your spirits aren’t impacting him? No. Sex won’t be the panacea for all your marital ills but the lack of sex is extremely frustrating to your husband and detrimental to your marriage. His sex drive has been tormenting you because other things aren’t going the way you want them to. Pray about this. Add this issue to your fasting prayer list. Your husband’s sex drive is a gift to you from Jehovah because in whole and healed marriages, sex can be the most powerful way to connect. When you have sex, use that as an opportunity to literally say aloud some of the confessions that Jehovah has given us. “Talking dirty” invites demons in your bedroom. And you wonder why you’re arguing or can’t communicate or can’t agree. What are you saying to each other and is it godly? Speaking powerful confessions over him while you are connected in the ultimate way invites the power of Holy Spirit to transform him and your marriage. His sex drive? Honey so many women are praying for what you have. You just have to pray and ask God how to manage the blessing with which you’ve been given.
“Can He Love and Lead You?” by Dr. Jené Walker
He may not have the grace. You have a calling and an assignment on your life. Period. You were created for a purpose. Those relationships haven’t worked out because the man Jehovah has for you has to have the “grace” to be able to love you and lead you. He won’t bless you with someone who isn’t created to complement your calling to fulfill in the earth. There is a man who is favored and graced to carry you as Jehovah carries him. The heavier your calling, the heavier his grace will be. Be discerning. You know what God has called you to do. You know what God told you you need in your husband. Stop trying to force a man who doesn’t have the grace to love you and lead you and wait on Jehovah.
Wives, if you’re married and the two of you aren’t working together toward your ministry as a couple, pray and seek Jehovah for guidance and direction. The two of you have a kingdom ministry. What is it? Maximize your purpose and maximize your love for each other.
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“My Husband’s Promotion” by Dr. Jené Walker
Wives, how many of you know and believe in your spirit that your husband has/will have a powerful calling and assignment on his life? In order to be the wife of a husband in a high place or position, we need certain characteristics – submission and a quiet spirit to name a couple. Also, our main role is to “help” so we must begin to decree and declare confessions over His life now to protect his purpose in the kingdom as well as our own.
CONFESSIONS:
1. I decree and declare that my husband will be totally surrendered to Jehovah God and in relationship with Yeshua.
2. I decree and declare that my husband will be led by Holy Spirit in his decisions about himself, me, and our family.
3. I decree and declare that my husband has a spirit of excellence within him which causes him to be pre-eminent among other men. My husband distinguishes himself because of the God on the inside of him.
4. I decree and declare that no corruption or negligence can be found in my husband.
5. I decree and declare that my husband is trustworthy and will be elevated in position in the cultural mountain over which he has influence.
6. I decree and declare that I am equipped as a wife to have the mandate of partnering with a man who Jehovah places in a high position. I am equipped to handle his work load and the people he will have to come in contact with. I can handle the responsibility of having a safe haven for him when he comes home from superintending the kingdom all day. I am prepared to support the causes for which he fights. I am equipped to partner with him in kingdom work.
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“The Great Deceiver” by Dr. Jené Walker
The enemy is the great deceiver and he leads the whole world astray. I don’t know about you but I have been deceived before – over and over. I have thought a situation or relationship was one way but it turned out to be something totally different. I thought that the person I was with loved me but I was deceived. I thought the relationship was headed somewhere, but it wasn’t. I thought a person was trustworthy but she wasn’t. Single and Married Wives, we have to be proactive and not reactive. Meaning? We can’t wait until the enemy creeps in and leads us or our husbands astray. We have to ward off those deceptive demons now. The enemy already has women, scam artists, car salesmen, or dirty supervisors pegged out who can be used to deceive our husbands. We have to cover ourselves and them now.
Genesis 38:9-10 9 “But Onan knew that the child would not be his; so whenever he slept with his brother’s wife, he spilled his semen on the ground to keep from providing offspring for his brother. 10 What he did was wicked in the Lord’s sight; so the Lord put him to death also.”
Confessions: Say these aloud daily until you feel the atmosphere shift.
1. I renounce the spirits of selfishness, greed, lust and duplicity in my husband. My husband will not tolerate spirits of duplicity and lying.
2. I renounce the spirits of irresponsibility in my husband which causes a man to abandon his seed, his own child, his own flesh and blood.
3. I renounce the spirit of manipulation in my husband which causes him to defile a woman’s body with no intentions of ever fulfilling his responsibility of marrying her. 4. I declare and decree that every dishonorable, deceptive, manipulative spirit be exposed in the name of Yeshua.
5. I cut off every misleading and undermining spirit working for Satanic intelligence in the name of Yeshua.
6. I declare and decree that my husband will fulfill all his responsibilities according to the kingdom of God and the principles in God’s Word.
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“Wise as a Serpent, Gentle as a Dove” by Dr. Jené Walker
Super Woman of God, which characteristics do you feel are most important for us to have as women of God this season? Abigail’s story just blows my mind every time I read it. To me, verses 25-31 represent two of the most powerful characteristics – discernment and spiritual wisdom?
1 Samuel 25:25-31 25 Please, let not my lord regard this scoundrel Nabal. For as his name is, so is he: Nabal is his name, and folly is with him! But I, your maidservant, did not see the young men of my lord whom you sent. 26 Now therefore, my lord, as the Lord lives and as your soul lives, since the Lord has held you back from coming to bloodshed and from avenging yourself with your own hand, now then, let your enemies and those who seek harm for my lord be as Nabal. 27 And now this present which your maidservant has brought to my lord, let it be given to the young men who follow my lord. 28 Please forgive the trespass of your maidservant. For the Lord will certainly make for my lord an enduring house, because my lord fights the battles of the Lord, and evil is not found in you throughout your days. 29 Yet a man has risen to pursue you and seek your life, but the life of my lord shall be bound in the bundle of the living with the Lord your God; and the lives of your enemies He shall sling out, as from the pocket of a sling. 30 And it shall come to pass, when the Lord has done for my lord according to all the good that He has spoken concerning you, and has appointed you ruler over Israel, 31 that this will be no grief to you, nor offense of heart to my lord, either that you have shed blood without cause, or that my lord has avenged himself. But when the Lord has dealt well with my lord, then remember your maidservant.”
Did you see evidence of those two characteristics in the text? The king had a small army heading to her home to kill every man in her household. The king had not prayed, consulted Jehovah, gone into the stronghold to hear from Jehovah, or fasted. The king was livid that Abigail’s husband refused to give food to him and his men. He was reacting to the situation in his flesh. When Abigail encounters him, every word has been anointed by Jehovah himself. Abigail is intelligent but when she speaks to David, the wisdom of Jehovah exudes from her. Look how wisely Abigail addresses the king. She tells this man (remember he is headed for a fight of which God didn’t approve):
1) Abigail prophesies to David. She tells him that the Lord will make David a sure house. She wisely says that David fights the battles of the Lord and evil hadn’t been found in David all his days. In other words, going to get vengeance on her husband was not a battle of the Lord’s. If David got involved in that, he could risk his covering.
2) Abigail reminds David of his covering and protection. King Saul was after David trying to kill him. So Abigail says that Jehovah continues to protect David because David does good. Jehovah will continue to allow David to win his battles if David continues to do well. In other words, headed to her home to kill her household may jeopardize his covering and protection from Saul.
3) Abigail emphasizes the importance of a good conscious. When Jehovah fulfills his promises in David’s life, making him ruler David won’t be vexed in his spirit because he avenged himself instead of allowing Jehovah to vindicate him.
4) Abigail establishes her position. She tells David that when God blesses him to remember her. When it is all said and done, Abigail says, remember me.
Do you see how her wisdom can be applied with your own husband? Do you sit at the feet of Jehovah long enough to hear what He says about your husband, his calling in the kingdom and his future? Can you gently warn your husband without it sounding like a warning at all? Can you gently remind him of his covering and protection as long as he does what is right in the sight of God? Can you explain to him about the peace of having a good conscious? Then, your position is established.
In all your getting single and married wives, get discernment to know when to say something and wisdom to know what and how to say it. When you get discernment and spiritual wisdom you can quietly and humbly run an entire kingdom with your husband being king. You, queen are the key to the kingdom. You are worth far more than rubies.
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“Honor Where Honor is NOT Due” by Dr. Jené Walker
What names are you calling your husband? What is your attitude when you address him? What is holding you back from humbling yourself in order to show honor to him in this season? What are you afraid of? Why aren’t you able to prostrate yourself in order to esteem or to value your husband to the highest degree? We won’t be able to escape having this characteristic as wives and still live in kingdom order.
1 Samuel 25:21-24 21 Now David had said, ‘Surely in vain I have protected andguarded all that this man has in the wilderness, so that nothing was missing of all that belonged to him; and he has repaid me evil for good. 22 May God do so to the enemies of David, and more also, if by morning I leave [alive] even one male of any who belong to him.’ 23 When Abigail saw David, she hurried and dismounted from the donkey, and kneeled face downward before David and bowed down to the ground [in respect]. 24 Kneeling at his feet she said, ‘My lord, let the blame and guilt be on me alone. And please let your maidservant speak to you, and listen to the words of your maidservant.'”
Abigail wanted to save her family from destruction. She rushed to confront the king to keep him from killing her household. When she reached him, she hurried and got off her donkey and “fell down” before the king. “Fell down” is the Hebrew translation which means she fell prostrate before the king; she bowed down before her superior in homage to him. Abigail knew to whom to show honor. She honored the king in how she addressed him as “my lord.” 1 Peter 3 says that “Even Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.”
Amazing woman of God, there is so much power in your ability and even willingness to humble yourself. When you can lower yourself, lessen your opinion of yourself, and stop thinking more highly of yourself than you ought to, power begins to permeate your whole being. Humility is a quality that distinguishes you from every other woman and you have to have it to show honor. Honor works well with obedience. Honor is related to submission. Honor prevents you from acting in your flesh. When your husband wants to move into another place to save money, will you “honor” his decision? When your husband reveals the financial plan for the family detailing what you have to save, spend, consolidate, and give away, will you honor him in obedience? When your husband gives you the new direction for the ministry and business, will you honor his vision? Even when he is about to make a decision that Holy Spirit revealed to you as an unwise decision, will you honor his authority?
The opposite of being prostrate is being prideful and pride goes before destruction. Listen to me you powerful woman of God, you have the spiritual capacity to humble yourself to show honor. You can impact the life of your husband, children, and family lineage with a decision to show honor and even be still until Holy Spirit tells you to move. You, queen, are an asset to the king, a manager, and the superintendent for your household. You are a gatekeeper and prophet. You are worth far more than rubies. To be continued…
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“She Can’t Love You Like I Can” by Dr. Jené Walker
Genesis 30:1-8 (NIV) 1 “When Rachel saw that she was not bearing Jacob any children, she became jealous of her sister. So she said to Jacob, “Give me children, or I’ll die!” 2 Jacob became angry with her and said, “Am I in the place of God, who has kept you from having children?” 3 Then she said, “Here is Bilhah, my servant. Sleep with her so that she can bear children for me and I too can build a family through her.” 4 So she gave him her servant Bilhah as a wife. Jacob slept with her, 5 and she became pregnant and bore him a son. 6 Then Rachel said, “God has vindicated me; he has listened to my plea and given me a son.” Because of this she named him Dan. 7 Rachel’s servant Bilhah conceived again and bore Jacob a second son. 8 Then Rachel said, “I have had a great struggle with my sister, and I have won.”
SHE BECAME JEALOUS OF HER SISTER (verse 1)!
When we look at our sister’s situation sometimes, that old ugly, evil, vicious spirit of jealousy will rise up out of seemingly nowhere. But the origin of it is our flesh and we have to cut it off at the root because jealousy can fester in something even uglier. But even deeper than ourselves, the enemy has established a world system (Jesus called Satan the prince of this world because this is his domain). In the system, the media, movies, and public figures do worldly things to push the enemy’s agenda – to include pitting us against each other. How? Depicting certain sizes and complexions. Creating shows in which cheating with someone’s husband is not just ok but promoted. We allow all these things to go in our spirit and it causes dissension and even strife between us. The bottom line is that we have to know our worth. We have to realize that we are worth far more than rubies. Period.
These are some lessons to consider and confessions to speak over our lives to bind the spirit of jealousy, competition, covetousness, and vanity in the name of Yeshua!
LESSON ONE: COVET NOT YOUR SISTER’S BLESSINGS
1. I am in the world but I am not of the world; I renounce the spirit of jealousy and quarreling and conflict against my sisters in the name of Yeshua (1 Corinthians 3:3).
2. I have Holy Ghost power on the inside of me to cast down thoughts about other women and cast out spirits of jealousy and envy and covetousness. I will cast my cares, my flesh, my desires, and insecurities on Yeshua.
3. I know that a man can’t give me what only God Himself can give. Only God can fill my void. Only Jehovah can make me whole. Only Jehovah can satisfy my soul, my thirst, and my desires. I depend on Jehovah.
4. I will not go into my marriage thinking my husband can fix what’s broken in me. I will not try to make my husband give me things to compete with another woman. I receive my healing from Yeshua (Jesus) now.
LESSON TWO: DO NOT TAKE MATTERS INTO YOUR OWN HANDS.
5. I will test my spirit by the Spirit of God and check the motives of my own heart. Why do I want the things I’m vying for and dying to have? My heart is fixed in Jesus’s name.
6. I will not get involved in another counterfeit relationship; I will not rush God in connecting me with my husband; I will not take matters into my own hands trying to manipulate a man to marry me.
7. I will not allow my body to be used as a punching bag for sex or for fists; I am worth far more than rubies.
LESSON THREE: STOP COMPETING WITH YOUR SISTER.
8. I rebuke the competitive spirit that causes me to try to make something happen for myself that isn’t God’s plan for me at this time. I will wait on His set and appointed (Kairos) time.
9. I rebuke the competitive spirit that makes me say ugly things about my sister; makes me judge my sister; and makes me criticize my sister.
10. I rebuke the competitive spirit that makes me try to take my sister’s man or sleep with her husband.
Do you know your worth? You and your sisters are worth far more than rubies. You are not her competition and she isn’t yours. We are all so worthy to our Lord and Savior Yeshua! Know your worth! Order your tee now at www.drjarmory.com!
“Know Your Worth” by Dr. Jené Walker
Do you know who you are? Do you know whose you are? Do you know how valuable you are? Do you know how strong you are? Do you know how influential you are? Do you know the power on the inside of you? Do you know what you bring to the table? You are worth far more than rubies.
I researched the value of rubies using the International Gem Society (IGS) to get an idea of the value of rubies today. Rubies are some of the most popular gems for good reasons. “As gem-quality examples of the mineral corundum, [rubies] are exceptionally durable and one of the few gem species whose color reaches vivid saturation levels. Fine quality rubies are some of the most expensive gems, with record prices over $100,000 per carat…As of May 2015, the record price for a ruby is approximately 2 million per carat,” according to IGS. A ruby is a valuable gem!
The revelation I got about the scripture, Proverbs 31:10 is that the queen, King Lemuel’s mother, from whose perspective this scripture was written understood the value of rubies. More importantly, the queen understood the value of a virtuous and noble woman for her son the king (prince). The queen asks who can find a virtuous woman for she is worth far more than rubies. There is no question about whether or not a woman worth far more than rubies can be found. You, virtuous woman, are worth far more than rubies waiting to be seen for who you are and to be found, valued, cherished, and appreciated. Do you know your own worth?
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